Some of you have been praying for me. Thank you so much for those prayers. I'm okay, just a lot of things interrupting my time with you. Thank you for your prayers.
I am once again driven to my knees by the news. I feel horrible for the victims of this week's shootings. Losing family members during the holidays is hard, but losing them to a violent act seems unbearable. I also feel bad for the parents of the shooters. Their pain must extend into every area of their life.
I've spent the last few days praying and thinking....waiting....thinking and praying some more. I don't like to say things that would cause pain to anyone. And yet, sometimes it is important to admit that a certain group is making mistakes. That admission may seem harsh but it is necessary if we are going to end the mistakes and build a brighter future.
In too many violent crimes committed by teens and young adults, there are connections to mistakes by parents. There are documented cases of children with severe mental problems that demands psychiatric help and possible institutional living. Parents can't control those issues. Parents with normal children can often do a better job within the home. It's usually a matter of just knowing what to do. That's what makes The Family Training Center so important. I make sure parents have the technical information needed in order to help their child.
In most cases, the child is simply unhappy at home and feels disconnected from his parents. He doesn't know how to ask for help and if he does....usually doesn't receive the help he needs. When they are three acting out involves temper tantrums. Unfortunately in this society, when they act out at 17 or 25, guns...drugs...and hateful promptings on the Internet is so available that violence takes on a deadly outcome.
I have never....let me say that again....I have never known or heard of any child or adult that was truly loved, taught real character, given a true faith, given training in good relationships and remained close to parents -- that went out and became a murderer. Happy, loved people do not do those things. And where are happy, loved people created?.........IN THE HOME.
Do not feel guilty. Do not worry when problems arise with your children. Don't know what to do? Write me....together we will find an answer. We are parents. We have the power to change the world through the love we give our children. We have the power to make a difference. Write me....and together we will make sure your child feels loved and good about his life.
We often say that God is the Answer. That's true, but I have a new statement to go along with that.
"God is not only the Answer, God has ALL the Answers." No matter what problem you are going through with your family, God has ALL the answers.
I know it's Christmas and we all want to concentrate on the festivities, but let's take some time today and pray for the victims.
"Dear God please be with all the families of the shootings this week. Children are crying for the mothers and grandmothers, fathers and grandfathers. Parents are crying for their precious missionary young adults and for their sweet children. Please God, let your love cover their pain.
Give them comfort. Let them feel your arms wrap around them. Give them hope. Give them love. Let their communities come to their aid. Give them your peace. Please God, give this country the desire to learn how to train children and build a country where this won't happen again. We thank you for all your blessings."
God Loves you,