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Tuesday, June 12, 2007

Life is made up of moments

In looking back over my life it is not the huge accomplishments or the fantastic that I cherish the most. The times that bring the most joy are the moments of peaceful contentment or loving exchanges.

My mother is staying with me for a while so she can go to Cleveland Clinic. Today is her birthday.

Yesterday I had a few friends over for supper. We laughed and talked, read silly cards and told stories of our lives. Looking around the room at smiling faces and knowing that each of us had been impacted by mother, I had a warm feeling.

A joy of a life well lived. A contentment that life just doesn't get better than this. A knowledge that all of our lives are better because we had shared them together.

Love. Love and family commitment is the greatest gift God can give.

Hug your loved ones. Celebrate your lives together. Understand a little more about God's love by seeing Him in those around you.





Esther Magdalene Crocker (Maggie, Memaw, Mom)
June 12, 1928
79 years young

God loves you,

Debbie

Saturday, June 9, 2007

A Boloney Sandwich

In his book, "See you at the House" - Bob Benson tells the story of A Baloney Sandwich.

It's a beautiful story about a man who was rushing to an old-fashioned Sunday School picnic. It was the kind of picnic where everyone brought something and everyone shared. But as he prepared to go all he had was "one dried up piece of baloney and just enough mustard in the bottom of the jar that you got it all over your knuckles trying to get to it."

He goes on to talk about sitting at the end of a table by a smiling family as they anticipated their meal. The mother had spent the entire morning preparing and had fried chicken, baked beans, potato salad and homemade rolls. She also had all the trimmings accompanied by two chocolate pies.

When these kind people saw what he brought they said, "Why don't we just put it all together? We love baloney sandwiches." After a lot of refusing but hoping he wasn't taken seriously - he agreed.

...."And so you did and there you sat, eating like a king when you came like a pauper."

He goes on to teach us what God has been saying that for a long time. We come to him with our miserable lives and our broken dreams and he says - "Why don't you take what you have and what you are, and I will take what I have and what I am, and we'll share it together."

Bob goes on to explain how wonderful it is to share with God. He has a hard time understanding the people who are so afraid of losing what they have that they hang on to it with everything they can.

"It really amuses me to see somebody running along through life hanging on to their dumb bag with that stale baloney sandwich in it saying, "God's not going to get my sandwich! No, siree, this is mine!" Did you ever see anybody like that --- so needy --- just about half starved to death yet hanging on for dear life. It's not that God needs your sandwich. The fact is, you need his chicken!"

Way to Go Bob! It couldn't be said any better than that.

I hope that all of you go out and have a wonderful Saturday.

Giggle with your children.

Kiss someone you love.

Have a picnic with some neighbors.

But most of all realize that God wants to share with you. He wants to spread a king's meal before you. He wants to enrich your life beyond your wildest dreams.


God loves you,

Debbie

Friday, June 8, 2007

Americans will have to die

I'm old enough to remember when preachers loved their congregations and were willing to take a stand and prepare us for the future. They were not concerned about gaining in numbers. They were concerned that we knew the truth - and sometimes that meant hell, fire and brimstone.

We talked and sang about heaven and we listened to pastors preach about the end times. We were warned quite often about what it meant to give your life for your faith and your country.

We heard stories about the Holocaust and how Bibles were taken away and good people were persecuted. We listened to "strong" talk about protecting the freedoms that you have and the consequences of apathy.
We were taught to work. Work was good. Teenagers that didn't work were considered lazy and good for nothing. To snub your nose at a job because it required sweat or cleaning up after others proved you were unacceptable and should be punished. Children were made to suffer the consequences of their actions. No one came to your rescue when you broke the rules.
We were taught to sacrifice. We were taught that preparing for and creating a better future was the most important thing you could do.

We were patriotic. We loved our country! Bad or good - just like we supported sports teams - We supported our country.
We saw first hand the difference between a selfish, socialist dictator (Hitler) and a Christian honorable society. We knew our way of life was best and we were willing to die to protect it. If a young kid didn't stand and put his hand over his heart when the national anthem was played - every adult around him would have something to say about it.

When immigrants came to this country they knew for sure it was America. Flags waved freely. Prayers were said openly. Bibles and churches were free. English was spoken everywhere and if you wanted to do business with an American - you better learn to speak English.

We were a Bible believing America. It was fine if you had a different faith, but all politicians promoted moral biblical lives even if they had problems living it. Being a Christian was as honorable a statement as being an American. No one would dare hurt a nun or a priest. And ministers were revered - not abused. And duh!...because of those moral beliefs children were safe and crime was low.

Ministers actually worked hard to be sure they lived honorable lives and that they taught us how to be honorable.

Everyone was proud of their heritage. Italians were proud of Italy and Germans were proud of their homeland. But the pride of their heritage never took precedence over their great pride and thankfulness to be in America or to be American.

America had the reputation for being the best. If something came from Japan or China it was thought to be cheap in quality and name. WHY? Because Americans took pride in their work.
If it said "made in America", it better be the best. It could be made by an American/mexican or an American/japanese - but it better be the best. If an employee didn't give their best to the job - they were fired! No recourse because they are lazy or untalented. Just fired. Let the people who know how to do the job - have the job! That philosophy forced people to work hard and be the very best they could be. Getting to the top meant something.

I bet I heard it more than a thousand times growing up...."There will come a day when your Bible will be taken away. Hide the word of God in your heart so when you fight the enemy for your freedom you can hear God's word in your head!"

With that instruction, millions of youth across this country began to memorize scriptures. During WWII thousands of young men quoted those scriptures as they died for their country. Hundreds of American/japanese , American/chinese, American/indian and American/mexicans went to war to preserve the freedoms we have in this country. They did not go to war to preserve Japan or Germany, China or Mexico. They went to war to be sure that this country remained American.

Where is Obama's loyalty to this country?  What is his faith?  Will he protect this country? 

"Oh, but wait a minute Debbie - he's not radical."

What does that mean? When he is in office and is faced with the decision to choose whether to protect American freedoms or support the Muslim agenda - where will his loyalty be? If you as a Christian were faced with the choice to choose America over your faith - which would you do?

Muslims are welcome to live in this country as long as they leave our government and our freedoms alone.
The Muslim faith is in direct opposition to American freedoms.

There will be a showdown!

A choice will have to be made!

Barack Obama has already proven where his loyalt is!

Our #1 problem in America is spoiled brats. People who are now old enough to take over this country and don't have the sense of a billy goat. People who only know how to take. People who only care about themselves and whether or not they will get what they want!
Spoiled Brats will never care about you! It won't happen. No matter what kind of token gesture they give you - there will be a price to pay.

Unfortunately many politicians are spoiled brats. Their only goal is to remain in power. It's not to help you. There are spoiled brats in the Republican party, but the Democratic party is overflowing with them. They only want to win an election - not build a better America!

How can you tell when someone really wants to build a better America? If anyone is willing to risk popularity, fame, money, power - and essentially toss it down the drain in order to follow though with a project that is "right" for the country - then and only then can you be sure that person cares about you.

If a politician is willing to do any kind of dance in order to get your vote - if they weasel their way out of any statement that receives negative responses - they are spoiled brats.
America has been turning out spoiled brats for a long time.
We have millions of young people across this country with too much money and too much time. They have grown up believing that having fun and getting everything they want is all that matters.
They don't care about quality in their work and would cut corners if it meant they could leave work early to go "have some fun". They are disrespectful and are not honorable. "Others" rights mean nothing to them. It's all about their own needs and desires. They are not willing to work hard or to defend good people. They are lazy and if you cross them or try to instruct them - they take the cowards way out and sue you.

Like stupid little sheep they will walk right into slaughter. Unfortunately, good people in America....tired people..... who once before had to come to the aid of this country....will have to step up to the plate and do something.
If we don't demand honorable politicians that can lead Godly lives, we will suffer.
If we don't demand that spoiled brats sit down and shut up, we will suffer.
If totally ignorant ridiculously stupid spoiled brats like Paris Hilton aren't made to follow the law, then the floodgates of tyranny will open. Give a spoiled brat an inch they will take a mile - and before you know it they will take over your country.

Yes, my friend, you guessed it. I'm a little disturbed by today's news.
And yes, I'm also saying that we have allowed lazy stupid spoiled brats to get away with murder much too long. If we are to save this country, we will have to fight.
Americans will die in this fight. My only hope is that there are enough good people left to stand and fight.

The pictures you have been seeing are from a high school in Montebello,California. The protesters put up the Mexican flag over the American flag and flew our precious flag upside down.

The e-mails I've received are correct to state that this probably won't be seen on the news. It's become politically tolerable for people staying in America to abuse the symbols and traditions of this country. If these rebellious high schoolers were born here - they are traitors.
I'm sure they will yell "Freedom of speech" but I'm equally sure they are not willing to die for the privilege.
They would not attempt this in their own country yet they feel free to protest our country. They are sure that none of the "old Americans" will want to fight them over this issue. Like thieves they have waited for us to build a great nation so they can march in like lazy cowards and take over.

It makes me sick to know that these rebellious, spoiled brats were not taken immediately suspended.
The image of the American flag subject to another and turned upside down on American soil is the most offensive thing I've seen in a long time.


If this doesn't make you mad enough to get involved then you deserve to lose your rights. Muslims want this country. Mexicans want control of this country. You better find out which ones they are and get them out.
If you don't, let me help you.....

...."There will come a day when your Bible will be taken away. Hide the word of God in your heart so when you fight the enemy for your freedom you can hear God's word in your head!"


God loves you,
Debbie

Thursday, June 7, 2007

Laughter

Having a bad day???

Let us laugh....


"A good laugh heals a lot of hurts." -- Madeleine L'Engle



Woman to pastor: You don't know how much your sermons have meant to my husband since he lost his mind." ---Tal Bonham



A member of his congregation told Rev. Warren J. Keating, pastor of First Presbyterian Church, Yuma, AZ, that this was the best prayer he ever heard:

"Dear God, please help me be the person my dog thinks I am."



"The only people here are the quick and the dead." ---Billy Graham, commenting on New York City traffic.



From a church bulletin: "10:30 a.m. worship Communion and candle lighting in remembrance of those who have died during the last year at both worship services."



A gambler died. The funeral was well attended by his professional friends. In the eulogy, the minister said; "Spike is not dead; he only sleeps."

From the rear of the chapel a man shouted: "I got a hundred that says he's dead."




An inexperienced preacher was conducting his first funeral. He solemnly pointed to the body in the coffin and declared: "What we have here is only a shell. The nut is already gone."



Pastor's Blooper: "This being Easter Sunday, we will ask Mrs. Johnson to come forward and lay an egg on the altar."



A certain doctor in Buffalo wondered why his practice was decreasing. He consulted a physician friend who agreed to spend a few days in the office and observe his methods. After an hour, his friend had the answer.

"Wilbur, you'll have to stop humming Nearer My God to Thee when writing out a prescription."



After a pastor's wife took her overworked husband to the family physician, the physician took the wife aside and whispered: "I don't like the way your husband looks."

"I don't either," she replied, "but he's always been a good father to the children."



A little boy at his first wedding. After the service, another child asked him, "How many men can a woman marry?"

"Sixteen," the little boy said.

"How do you know?" his friend asked.

"The preacher said it -- four better, four worse, four richer, four poorer."




Giggle and laugh today.

God loves you,

Debbie

Wednesday, June 6, 2007

Christian Parenting

My heart is heavy today. I've been talking with someone who only wants to gain my approval and they are not really concerned about what is best for their child. There are specific social and parenting rules that if broken - you will hurt your child. Sorry! That's the way it is.

It seems that more and more parents are only concerned with doing what is good for them and they are not willing to sacrifice for the well being of their child. God help us when all these hurt children take over our world. One of the biggest problems of today is that too many hurt people are in control.

I'm putting together more material for the website as well as other blogs so you can participate in discussing specific details. I will cover more details about this subject at that time. Unfortunately, putting it all together is taking more time than I thought it would. For now, I would just like to leave you with some scripture to mull over. Think about how it applies to you and your Christian life.

Mark 9:42-50 "And if anyone causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to be thrown into the sea with a large millstone tied around his neck."

Jesus had just finished talking about people who were casting out demons in his name but were not disciples. But if you couple that scripture with other scriptures about children, you come up with a very specific directive.

Prov. 22:6 "Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it."

Matt. 19:14 "Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven."

Prov. 17:21 "He that begetteth a fool doeth it to his sorrow: and the father of a fool hath no joy."

Prov. 23:24 "The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice: and he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him."

Eph. 6:4 "Fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord."

Col. 3:21 "Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged."



We are responsible for training our children and leading them to Christ.

We are responsible for making sure that they have good lives and that living in our households will naturally cause them to be mature Christians.

We are responsible for being an example to our children.

We have definite responsibilities as parents and if we simply shrug those off or make light of them or even pass them off to other people - we are guilty of causing one of these little ones to sin!

Take your responsibilities seriously.

Don't be overcome with guilt - leave the past behind you and just get busy making the future the best you can.

Get busy making your home a Godly home.




I've said it a hundred times ----
A child will see the face of God FIRST in their parents face.
Does your child see God in your face?



God loves you,

Debbie

Tuesday, June 5, 2007

Be all you can Be - A truly Godly statement

I'm reading a wonderful book. "If you want to walk on water, you've got to get out of the boat", by John Ortberg

I think the saddest counseling I've ever done is with people who have not reached their potential. Their conversation is full of "could have", "should have" and "I was going to". This country is filled with congregations and hosts of people who take pride and pleasure in being spiritual and mental couch potatoes. Most of the time it isn't due to laziness but rather fear. A fear of rejection or a fear of failure. (I know that's my problem.)

This book uses the wonderful story of Peter walking on the water to illustrate God's plan for his children. Buy or checkout the book. It's wonderful reading full of hope, encouragement and excitement about reaching your full potential.

In chapter two he talks about God's gift to us - our talents. He uses the story of the rich man who gave three men various talents to see what they would do with them. Here's one of my favorite quotes...

Anytime a gift is given, the recipient must choose to respond in one of two ways.

The first way says……. “This gift is so valuable it can’t be risked.

The second way says… “This gift is so valuable it must be risked.

There is no tragedy like the tragedy of the unopened gift.
WOW! That says it all! Think about it. Be all you can be today. Reach your God given potential. I dare you.
God loves you,
Debbie

Monday, June 4, 2007

Good parenting can change the world

I'm sure many of you know that I'm in the process of writing several parenting books. I'm also a teacher/speaker for The Family Training Center. I had the thought this morning that perhaps I should check and see how many other parenting books are out there. I am sure there's a lot. You can't go into a bookstore - even a used one - without seeing several parenting books. I "googled" Parenting books. Goggle gave 20,400,000 responses to that input.

Now I'm sure that not all of those sites are strictly parenting books. In fact, one of the sites on the first page was exclusively devoted to listing their favorite parenting books. I am amazed by the response and the fact that there has been so much written about parenting.

Is parenting that confusing? Or is it that no one really knows what works? Is this parenting thing such a mystery that it's more confusing than say oceans (1,870,000 sites). Surely there has been more written on Jesus than on parenting. A Google leads me to 5,710,000 sites. How about Presidents? When I googled "books on Presidents" I received 6,710,000 sites listed.

Hum...

Surely Algebra would be more confusing than parenting. It is for me anyway. But a Google for Algebra books only gave me 1,810,000 sites.

Apparently parenting is extremely confusing. Let me help you simplify parenting.

1. Once you have a child it is your responsibility to know right from wrong. You must know how to act in order to get the right response in any situation.

2. You must be willing to teach right and wrong to your child.


That's it. Mystery solved. That's all there is to it.

It gets sticky when we include all the gray areas of teaching right and wrong. Do I force this? Do I make my child learn something that I think is right but someone else may think is wrong? How do I teach this? Should I be easy going or should I be tough?

To answer all those questions let me add two more points.

1. Always parent for the future. Your child is depending on you to show him how to navigate through life. He's depending on you to give him the tools he will need to have a good life. Don't let something get by you at age two that will cause your child a problem at age 22. Make sure all the right and wrongs you teach will protect and help your child when he is older.

2. Every thing you do must be with love and compassion. It is not loving or compassionate to raise a spoiled brat that others in the world will not like, will not help and if they marry will surely divorce them for their bratty ways. It is much more loving and compassionate to help your child have an easy time living and working with others. In other words, compassion is not the same as spoiling your child.

Compassion many times will mean extra work, discipline and saying no. Let's say your child wanted to touch a hot stove. You have used the stove to fix meals and you know the value of using heat to your advantage. So in reality you don't have a problem with heat. You determine that heat is not "wrong". But your compassion and not wanting your child to be hurt forces you to say "no".


Maybe the real problem with parenting is that so many adults don't know right from wrong and can't make sense of their own lives. How can you teach something that you don't know yourself????

Hum.....

So really most of the parenting books are probably teaching parents how to distinguish right from wrong rather than actually helping the child? Hum....

The bottom line is that parenting is the only way to change the future.

When we raise a child that understands the world and understands how to properly function in the world - he is set free to make the most of his talent and to help make the future better. When we fail at our jobs, the world suffers. The world is then filled with dysfunctional people who will breed more dysfunctional people and will leave this world worse than it was before they arrived.

Preachers can't preach us into a better world.
Presidents can't legislate us into a better world.
Singers can't sing us into a better world
and
writers can't write us into a better world.
Parenting is the only way to change the future and change the world.




What do you think?

God loves you,

Debbie