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Sunday, December 18, 2011

Don't forget the important gifts of Christmas

Merry Christmas!

I am looking forward to the important gifts of Christmas.  The ones that last a lifetime.  The gifts that keep on giving all year long.  They are wrapped with paper that outshines all others.  The gifts I'm talking about are the personal smiles, sweet memories and beautiful moments that we share with loved ones and friends.  Those little snippets of time that keep invading our thoughts all year long.  The moments that leave a lump in our throat but sweep all the cobwebs from our aching hearts.  When the tiniest sweet moment is through we take a deep breath and drink in a freshness that seems to clear away all the sadness of this evil world.

Take time this Christmas to hug all your friends and family.  Hold them tight.  Whisper that you love them.  Listen to their stories, share a laugh and be thankful for those who have blessed your life so much.  My Dad just posted this wonderful story on his blog.  I hope you enjoy this little present of goodness.

Operator please

June 23, 1998



When I was young, my father had one of the first telephones in our neighborhood. I remember well the polished old case fastened to the wall. The black receiver hung on the side of the box. I was too little to reach the telephone, but used to listen with fascination when my mother used to talk to it.

Then I discovered that somewhere inside the wonderful device lived an amazing person - her name was “Information Please” and there was nothing she did not know. “Information Please” could supply anybody’s number and the correct time.

My first personal experience with this genie-in-the-bottle came one day while my mother was visiting a neighbor. Amusing myself at the tool bench in the basement, I whacked my finger with a hammer.

The pain was terrible, but there didn’t seem to be any reason in crying because there was no one home to give sympathy. I walked around the house sucking my throbbing finger, finally arriving at the stairway.

The telephone!

Quickly, I ran for the footstool in the parlor and dragged it to the landing. Climbing up, I unhooked the receiver in the parlor and held it to my ear. “Information Please,” I said into the mouthpiece just above my head.

A click or two and a small clear voice spoke into my ear.

“Information.”

“I hurt my finger.” I wailed into the phone. The tears came readily enough now that I had an audience.

“Isn’t your mother home?” came the question.

“Nobody’s home but me.” I blubbered.

“Are you bleeding?”

“No,” I replied. “I hit my finger with the hammer and it hurts.”

“Can you open your icebox?” she asked. I said I could.

“Then chip off a little piece of ice and hold it to your finger,” said the voice.

After that, I called “Information Please” for everything. I asked her for help with my geography and she told me where Philadelphia was. She helped me with my math. She told me my pet chipmunk that I had caught in the park just the day before would eat fruits and nuts.

Then, there was the time Petey, our pet canary died. I called “Information Please” and told her the sad story. She listened, then said the usual things grown-ups say to soothe a child. But I was un-consoled. I asked her, “Why is it that birds should sing so beautifully and bring joy to all families, only to end up as a heap of feathers on the bottom of a cage?”

She must have sensed my deep concern, for she said quietly, “Paul, always remember that there are other worlds to sing in.” Somehow I felt better.

Another day I was on the telephone. “Information Please.”

“Information,” said the now familiar voice.

“How do you spell fix?” I asked.

All this took place in a small town in the Pacific Northwest.

When I was 9 years old, we moved across the country to Boston.

I missed my friend very much. “Information Please” belonged in that old wooden box back home, and I somehow never thought of trying the tall, shiny new phone that sat on the table in the hall.

As I grew into my teens, the memories of those childhood conversations never really left me. Often, in moments of doubt and perplexity I would recall the serene sense of security I had then. I appreciated now how patient, understanding, and kind she was to have spent her time on a little boy.

A few years later, on my way west to college, my plane put down in Seattle. I had about half an hour or so between planes. I spent 15 minutes or so on the phone with my sister, who lived there now. Then without thinking what I was doing, I dialed my hometown operator and said, “Information, Please”.

Miraculously, I heard the small, clear voice I knew so well, “Information.” I hadn’t planned this but I heard myself saying, “Could you please tell me how to spell fix?”

There was a long pause. Then came the soft spoken answer, “I guess your finger must have healed by now.”

I laughed. “So it’s really still you,’ I said. “I wonder if you have any idea how much you meant to me during that time.”

“I wonder”, she said, “if you know how much your calls meant to me.” “I never had any children, and I used to look forward to your calls.”

I told her how often I had thought of her over the years and I asked if I could call her again when I came back to visit my sister.

“Please do, she said. “Just ask for Sally.”

Three months later I was back in Seattle. A different voice answered “Information.” I asked for Sally.

“Are you a friend?” She said.

“Yes, a very old friend,” I answered.

“I’m sorry to have to tell you this, she said. Sally had been working part-time the last few years because she was sick. She died five weeks ago.”

Before I could hang up she said, “Wait a minute. Did you say your name was Paul?”

“Yes.”

“Well, Sally left a message for you. She wrote it down in case you called. Let me read it to you.” The note said, “Tell him I still say there are other worlds to sing in. He’ll know what I mean.”

I thanked her and hung up. I knew what Sally meant.

 
 
Merry Christmas - God loves you,
 
Debbie

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

America's youth and the death of intelligent thought.

It's often hard to explain to others how I look at the world.  My new book, The Mommy Detective attempts to help others see what I see when I look at problems.  It shows my thoughts when it comes to my world view, parenting, faith and a host of other issues.  Basically, I feel that the only way to a good life is to know the truth.  If you base it on what you've heard or what someone has told you to believe - you can be fooled.  You may think you have a good life but around the corner a train wreck is on it's way. 

I don't want to be surprised negatively with a horrible ending to a particular train of thought.  For example if I believe that God doesn't exist because some atheist professor told me that in a classroom, what happens if he's wrong?  What happens if I get to the moment of death and find out that my Christian neighbor is right.  With no time to change, I will suffer the consequences of another person's research. 

If I plan to build a part of  my life on any philosophy, I am going to constantly question my beliefs to be sure I'm right.  The most dangerous position to be in is one where you can never test your theories or where you look at life through selfish eyes.  I've know wonderful Christians who loved God but still viewed the world through very small selfish eyes.  For that reason I tell people constantly - show me something that is better than the way I live and I'll change.  But...first you have to prove to me it's better.  Since I know my platform extremely well and I've tested most every view - they back off quickly. 

We are headed for some very difficult times.  People are voting and spouting a lot of ridiculous theories and refusing to investigate their validity.  That will lead us to a slavery based society.  We may not be in physical chains - but we will be mentally chained.  We must train our children to think logically and to thoroughly test every area of every philosophy they choose to live by.  Without that kind of scrutiny we will bite the apple once again and our society will slip into desperate chaos. 

Guess who rises to the top during a chaotic situation - evil - always evil.  People usually don't turn to good people during a crisis because the good person will require some form of hard work.

Angel Hunt posted the following video on her blog.  I am grateful she did.  I hope you will watch the entire video and ask yourself - "Do my philosophies have the kind of holes in it that the interviewer revealed? "





God loves you,

Debbie

Monday, November 7, 2011

Scandal, scandal, scandal

Is anyone questioning the scandals that seem to crawl out of the woodwork when something good is happening? 

I'm not a mind reader.  I don't know if someone I've never met is telling the truth or not.  I can't put my arm around a total stranger and vouch for his/her integrity.  But it does seem that either a truly good person doesn't exist anymore or some people are willing to perjure themselves for the sake of ten minutes of fame. The real problem with the justice system and the media is that once a person is accused, the accuser can run away and hide.  He/she isn't prosecuted.  The life of the accused is ruin and there's no way to get it back.

I don't know Herman Cain.  I've read his bio and I've listened to him speak several times, but I can't tell you for sure that he isn't the kind of man that would sexually harass a woman.  Yet...it does seem suspicious that no one says a thing about him until....he rises in the polls and looks like he might be a shoe in.  Then all of a sudden four women are on the bandwagon to demand that he's a bad guy.  It seems like socialists, democrats, liberals and Mr. Obama's team are so desperate that I wouldn't put it pass someone in that army of individuals to do something dastardly.

If you factor in a little "discernment", it is possible to say...This person or that person just doesn't seem to be the kind of person to do that.  But... there again, who really knows.

For what it's worth, it doesn't seem to me that Herman Cain looks or acts like the kind of person that would demean any woman.  Something here doesn't ring true.  Besides, have you seen his bio???  It doesn't look to me like he would have time to harass anyone. 

I guess we will have to see how this all plays out, but I'm a little sad.  I don't think the media is trustworthy and I think most reporters would bury a candidate they didn't like for the price of dinner at Denny's.  I don't think they would bat an eye at ruining any one's life.  So to put this matter into their hands is like asking a crocodile to babysit a rabbit.  He wouldn't care about lost revenue, he'd just be glad dinner was served.

I guess the only real option here is to pray.  Pray for Herman Cain, pray for more honorable reporters and pray that God will have mercy on America.

God loves you,

Debbie

Welcome the Holidays -Hallelujah!

I was working on a sad news topic when Ron sent me a link to the following video.  I had tears in my eyes by the end of the video.  It's inspiring and wonderful.  It's about time children are taught that faith can be inspiring and fun.

I hope you will pass this video around as you welcome the coming holidays.



Now don't you feel better???

God loves you,

Debbie

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Girl Scouts - a liberal organization

I remember growing up in a world where you could trust the philosophy and integrity of organizations like boy scouts and girl scouts.  I am sad at the overwhelming work new parents have to do in order to protect and defend their child and the Christian, conservative way of life. 

I have never confronted someone who disagrees with me and intentionally hurt them.  I've always been as nice as possible to everyone. I enjoy expressing my views and being respectful enough to hear theirs.

I've spent many years looking the other way when images, lifestyles and philosophies I don't agree with are displayed.  However, we don't live in a world where the true meaning of "diversity" exists.  Diversity, compassion, acceptance is only available for liberals and their agenda.  If I want to invite a group of like minded people to enjoy a meeting or day with people who "think like I do"....you can be sure I'll be attacked and someone will yell that I'm being divisive.  That's poppycock!  The real definition for what's happening in America today is "attack from the left, from liberals, from gays and from Muslims".  The agenda is to break down the family, destroy Christianity and eliminate any thought in America that doesn't promote the idea that any and everything is okay.

We are losing our freedoms and it won't be long until we will have to fight to regain what we've lost.  Don't get me wrong.  I hope these freedoms can be replaced peacefully.

It's just not logical when Muslims (or their representatives) attend a Catholic school and then sue because they don't have a prayer room dedicated to their faith.  Duh!  You want a Muslim prayer room - go to a Muslim school!  Don't try to destroy a Catholic school from within. 

In every segment of society atheists yell about how offensive a cross is or how they can't stand to drive past a grave because it has a flag or some religious symbol.  To believe that lie, I would have to see every atheist as a weak minded, feeble dysfunctional retard that doesn't have the ability to turn his head and look away.  And...that even the slightest symbol of Christianity would overpower his weak mind and cause him immediate pain.  How lame is that? 

But these pathetic Christians who are believing in something that isn't real - we have to stomach a constant stream of television images, off the beam scientists and pornography pushers.  And these poor Christians that need a crutch because they are so weak - we somehow are strong enough to resist the constant garbage we have to view. 

Today was the last straw.  Today I learned that innocent little girl scouts are the new stream of prey for liberal agendas.  This is from the American Family Association....

The Girl Scouts of Colorado has flip-flopped on a decision not to let a 7-year-old boy join their organization, now saying he is welcome even though he's not a girl, according to FoxNews.


The Girl Scouts issued a statement to the local Fox affiliate, saying they are an inclusive organization and will accept "Bobby." The troop leader who turned him away made a mistake, they said, and the situation is being rectified. "If a child identifies as a girl and the child's family presents her as a girl, Girl Scouts of Colorado welcomes her as a Girl Scout," the statement said.

This follows a long history of liberal leanings by the Girl Scouts of America:

Girl Scouts supports Planned Parenthood
Girl Scouts recognizes many "gods"
Girl Scouts advances lesbianism and radical feminism

The Girls Scouts of America has lost it's way and lost its mind. A boy is not a girl, end of story.

AFA is proud to recommend the Christian-based American Heritage Girls as an alternative to the Girl Scouts of America. American Heritage Girls has over 13,000 members in 41 states.

To view this article AFA - Girl Scouts now allow transgender

I have just one thing to say to the Girl Scout representative that said, "If a child identifies as a girl and the child's family presents her as a girl, Girl Scouts of Colorado welcomes her as a Girl Scout."

How stupid!  According to his/her rationale - If I identify myself as an eagle and my family presents me as an eagle - then I must be an eagle and the scientific community should welcome me as such.  I doubt that living on mountain top and flying around the valley will be possible.  I'm not sure I could build a nest large enough or that I would be comfortable killing small animals.  But...if I say it loud enough and demand that it's true - then surely it must be.  Hum...who said that originally - oh yeah - Hitler had a lot to say about faith and lies....

Check out Brainy Quotes

"If you tell a big enough lie and tell it frequently enough, it will be believed."

"It is always more difficult to fight against faith than against knowledge."
"It is not truth that matters, but victory. "
"Make the lie big, make it simple, keep saying it, and eventually they will believe it. " 
Sounds familiar Adolf Hitler

It's like Abraham Lincoln said "Just because you say a dog's tail is a leg doesn't make it so!"

The sadness in all of this is not the stupidity of the adults - although that is important.  The sadness is the child.  Seven year olds don't have the social or mental capability to understand "who they are".  They are simply following the parents who are planting an idea.  This entire situation is a lie and in the process a life is ruined.  Children are followers and if you choose to lie to a child - he doesn't know the difference.  It's so sad that America has stooped so low that we now give in and allow our citizens to lie.  Without knowing and living by the truth - we will eventually become a nation of slaves.

God have mercy on us.
God loves you,

Debbie

Saturday, October 29, 2011

Negative complaints can kill Holiday memories

As we approach the holidays I hear the same old complaints. Adults squash their child’s ability to find the positive in life by complaining about all the work that accompanies a good time. No matter where they live, what kind of home they have or what the finances are – children hope that maybe….just maybe….the holidays will be filled with a little spark of fun and a few moments of love and genuine happiness.


Even if the child has never had it before, even if there’s no hope of it happening – the tiniest spark of desire will be there. Maybe just maybe - there is a Santa. Maybe just maybe - there is a Jesus. Maybe just maybe - I’ll be excited or happy or loved – even if it’s just for the moment.

Crashing their hopes and dreams, Mom or Dad enters the room screaming about chores that must be done and how they hate the holidays because of all the work. Even in homes where holidays are celebrated and children are treated with respect – Mom often mutters under her breath until little Sally decides that Christmas isn’t a fun holiday after all.

Little feet dance with anticipation in the long line to see Santa, while mothers argue, fuss and pull at their children until seeing Santa is the end result of an exasperating trip. Children’s eyes are wide with excitement as they glance at the live trees on the lot. They smell the pine, crunch along the saw dust and imagine twinkling lights over large packages. Then Dad barks about how heavy the tree is or how much sap will be on the carpet and little eyes droop with the heaviness of fake holiday cheer. No wonder so many young adults would rather spend the holidays with their friends. The joy of a decorated house and loving family interactions has been replaced with bad attitudes and impossible goals.

You don’t have to come right out and stand against the holidays in order to destroy them. You can simply “complain” them to death.

“But Debbie, that’s not fair. I work like a dog during the holidays and I’m exhausted. Shouldn’t my family pay attention to me and allow me to vent a little?”

It’s difficult to suffer in silence. I know. I’ve done it many times. The question should not be what do you need – the question should be what is the goal? If you goal is to inspire your family to enjoy each other during the Holidays, then all the little snide remarks about greedy companies, selfish in-laws and demanding children does not support your goal.

If your goal is to bring your family together in peace and enjoy the time you have with them – negative thoughts, complaints and rants should not be allowed. If your goal is to have everyone bow at your feet because of the work you’ve done – then perhaps you need to draw up a contract that will produce a well thought out Thank You rather than simply voicing your complaints.

This year, rather than personally concentrating on the birth of Christ, perhaps parents should concentrate on the teachings of Christ. Philippians 2:14 is a great place to start.

“Do everything without complaining or arguing so that you may become blameless and pure children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation in which you shine like stars in the universe as you hold out the word of life – in order that I may boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor for nothing. But even if I am being poured out like a drink offering on the sacrifice and service coming from your faith, I am glad and rejoice with all of you. So you too should be glad and rejoice with me.”


Perhaps we need to ask ourselves if our children turn their backs on God because we presented his birth in such a negative light. Yes, we told them the story of the Nativity. Yes, we told them Jesus is the way the truth and the life. But did we also turn Thanksgiving and Christmas into such a flurry of negative comments that we not only turned them off on the holidays but we also turned them off on the love of Jesus?

God loves you,

Debbie

Friday, October 28, 2011

I hate it when people "settle"

I love all my clients and all my friends.  I really love my family and those I feel like are family. 

I try to give good advice and I'm very careful when counseling that I don't push too hard or crush any one's toes.

However....that said....I hate to settle for anything less than the "best for me".  That may not be the best for you...you have your own best.  I just can't fathom someone who knows they are settling but they just don't care any more.  It's as if they feel like they don't deserve the best or they are just too "tired or lazy" to try anymore.  NO...No...No...! 

The first place that anyone can go to begin the process of building your self esteem and becoming a better person - the first place to go is to insist that you are not going to settle for anything less than the best your life can be!  Don't settle for a spouse, don't settle in your job, don't settle in your dreams and for heaven's sake don't settle / give in / sell out - yourself.  Be the very best that you can be.

I've made a ton of mistakes and I've had to walk back to several crossroads and start over.  Each time I have I've re-committed myself to the highest standard.  I'm committed to racing for and reaching for the highest best for my life. 

Someone sent an e-mail full of pictures from Wall-mart.  Pictures that showed the worst that people can be.  Some of them were so bad that the only possible response was a guttural "that's disgusting".  Over all though, I felt pity.  Pity that those people were so starved for a little attention that they were willing to look their worst to be recognized.  They settled for disgusting looks because they were too lazy or too dysfunctional to work for and deserve a respectful look. 

I thought about the thousands of people all across this country that are buying into the settling routine.  They take their cues from pathetic shows like bridezillas.  For the sake of money producers trot out dysfunctional emotionally crippled people as if they are worthy of our attention.  Instead of getting help for an emotionally starved spoiled brat, producers exploit their dysfunction.  They promote their need for attention and provide a means for them to settle for negative attention.  Reality show participants don't stop to think that people are laughing at them, that they are being ridiculed and that they have settled for the worst form of bullying.

Instead of reality show adults pursuing their highest goal - being respected for their classy ways, their intelligence, their good looks - reality shows parade a host of dysfunctional ugly people in front of us that promote....."I'm pathetic but I'm settling because I'm either too lazy or too mixed up to work for anything better. 

It's so sad to me that people think so little of themselves.  It's refreshing to follow someone like Jackie Kennedy Onassis.  Whether I agree with all her opinions or not - you have to admit that she was well educated, extremely classy and the best she could be.  I like watching actors like Denzel Washington and others that strive to be the best they can be.  Even knowing that she didn't pick the right person the first time around - you have to admire a person like Princess Diana who worked hard to be the best she could be.

I hope you will spend a little time today asking the question - Am I settling?  Have I settled for a steady date that isn't going to help me be my best - just because I'm tired of trying?  Have I settled for a bad job just because I don't want to study and go for the good job?  Have I settled for friends that make me unhappy just because I don't want to find friends that will support me and push me to be my best? 

If I've settled in any area of my life....why am I settling and what can I do to change and be my very best!

So why do I hate it when people settle?  It's a waste.  It's a waste of a life, of a family, of a generation.  When you aren't your best - people around you suffer as well.  Don't waste your life.  Be your best.

God loves you,

Debbie