tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2904534210976358782.post1435733089112782401..comments2023-05-11T06:01:57.977-07:00Comments on Family Tracks: Too much love may corrupt your child.Debbie Jansenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13081670752103539862noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2904534210976358782.post-50290734723001904202012-12-14T16:15:58.962-08:002012-12-14T16:15:58.962-08:00Thank you for this very insightful and wise articl...Thank you for this very insightful and wise article. I'm a father of a 6 <br />and 1 year old. <br /><br />My parenting philosophy is consistent with the writing here, my challenge is that my wife, their mother, doesn't seem to agree with this philosophy. <br /><br />I feel she is spoiling our 6 year old son and setting him up to be lazy and ungreatful when he grows up.<br /><br />I am resentful of this and have been unsuccessful in getting her to understand or agree with this difference between real love and poison love. <br /><br />I will share this article with her in hopes she will see her parenting differently. <br /><br />Thank you, TyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02653563461735570998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2904534210976358782.post-89774332787187324072011-09-06T09:09:05.137-07:002011-09-06T09:09:05.137-07:00Thank you for those comments! It's hard to get...Thank you for those comments! It's hard to get everything in to a short post. You are exactly right about the difference between love and spoiling. It's an important distinction. Unfortunately, many parents use the terminology incorrectly and that's what I was responding to. Thanks again for your comment and I hope to hear from you again.Debbie Jansenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13081670752103539862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2904534210976358782.post-14562635195174237992011-09-06T08:58:40.771-07:002011-09-06T08:58:40.771-07:00What a great post!! Thank God I found you!
I do n...What a great post!! Thank God I found you! <br />I do not believe you can love a child too much! Love is placing the good of another over your own. Helen's parents did not love her too much, they had too much pity and compassion for her and they felt sorry for her and themselves. They over compensated and "spoiled" her. But this is not love! All love is "tough" love, in that you need to discipline and train, as well as show compassion and affection.<br />Spoiling is not loving! Love does not spoil: love trains a child to be truthful, independent and kind (amoung other similar virtues.) And remember discipline means to follow. So to adequately love a child you must be the person you want them to become, and accept no excuses for mis-behavior either on their part, or yours. (Read more in Messengers in Denim). <br />Thanks for your great post. I look forward to more!Dr. Par Doanhuenoreply@blogger.com